“Role” With The Punches
Happy Tip Tuesday y’all. This week we’re phoning a friend for strategies to help us “role” with the punches. Each of us has a variety of roles, or shall we say hats we wear. Sometimes we choose these hats, and sometimes they are placed on our heads by others or even by chance. Juggling the roles you hold can be tricky, and it can become stressful. Enjoy the wisdom and tips from my good friend and coworker Julia regarding how she learned to navigate and accommodate the different roles in her life. Read on to see how she manages expected and unexpected roles in her life, with effort to live mindfully and peacefully.
3 years ago this month, I found out I was pregnant. I had no thoughts of becoming a mother anytime soon, I wasn’t married…this was not in my plan. Little did I know it would be the best surprise ever. God was looking out.
People always say, you have to “roll with the punches”, well this was one of those times. This saying led me to reflect on my “roles” new and old. Life as I knew it was about to change drastically. I was to be a mother, and along with that title came many more roles… caregiver, housekeeper, cook, chauffeur, playmate, provider, teacher, and wife. The only way to “roll with the punches” was to embrace these new challenges. I had to (and still am) learning how to navigate and interweave each new and old role, in order to roll smoothly. It’s a process for sure, but I’ve found some strategies that have proven to help me as I adapt, accept, and appreciate the purpose of each role I play. Finding balance between roles and allowing them to be separate or meshed is a daily journey, here are the strategies that help me find more ease in this act.
- Be mindful – One thing that has helped me in this ever changing process was mindfulness. Trying to be present in the moment and enjoy the time for what it is without judgement. When I am with my daughter, I try not to multitask and give her my full attention. Try to be just mommy, and not worry so much about being a cook or a housekeeper or answering a text or email. In a world of multitasking, going back to single tasking and giving each moment full awareness. These years go by so quickly, I would hate to look back and say, I missed it.
- Make “Me time” – This is very necessary. Self care and time for myself has been something that I never realized was so important. Since becoming a wife and mommy, I do not get much alone time anymore. I now try to schedule time in my day to sit to meditate, read a book, practice pilates, and once in a while even design a piece of jewelry. These hobbies and time spent with myself to reflect helps me to be a better mother and wife.
- Be open minded – It is so important to be open to change and be open to the direction that life takes you. I never knew how much I would love being a mommy. It brings me so much joy, 3 years ago as I said before that was not in my plans. Having flexible mindset and trying to stay positive when you hit road bumps allows you to overcome. Instead of thinking “Why me?” Or “How come?” try to think “What can I learn from this?” “How can I use this hurdle to make me stronger, better, smarter etc.?”
- Maintain a social life – Take time for friends and family. I am recharged being around others and spending quality time with my friends and family. I am also really fortunate to have some amazing girlfriends in Charlotte who are in a similar stage in life and a husband who supports my time with them. At the end of the day, sometimes a nice long chat with a friend can be the most helpful stress reliever out there.
Xoxo, Julia, Role-ing since 83